Day 4 - Thirty Days of Dominance
4) Do you switch into a submissive role at any time? If you are in a domestic discipline relationship, are there things that your submissive maintains control over? Are you a “switch” in BDSM terms? If not, have you ever thought about it or given thought to why it’s not for you?
NO I do not switch We tried it one time and NO NOT NO BUT HELL NO she loves being the sub and I am a good and descent Master so this is what works We are compatible so We stick with that her control is limited to hard limits and the safe word (witch she has never used) becoming a dom or at least more dominant was a long hard road for me so I don’t want to turn back
Day 3 - Thirty Days of Dominance
Day 3) How do you know you are dominant or have the potential to be dominant? How do you feel when you express your dominance?
People come to Me looking for a leader all the time when placed in a group setting were a task needs done the group usually turns to Me to lead the way it has happened to Me most of My life and I have noticed in a relationship that if I let the girl take charge she will not be happy and I will loose her but then I found Azure at first not knowing if I wanted this I took charge told her haw it would be and We were very happy then 1 day she challenged Me and I gave in so she took charge and We began a downward spin that almost ended us but she came across an idea while playing an on line game and We started a slow clime out of that she was exploring submission and realized that was the answer slowly We have come to were We are today and We are happier than We have ever been My confidence is were it is when I’m single and she loves Me more than ever so that’s were I found it
Day 2 - Thirty Days of Dominance
Day 2) Describe who you might dominate and how. Are you exclusively dominant in marriage or just in the bedroom? Are you dominant only in the context of a scene or in a role or throughout your daily life? Are you dominant to play partners or only in the context of a relationship?
in the bed room yes in the marriage most of the time We have just in the last couple of Years started exploring the D/s thing and she has just recently submitted totally so its still kind of new as far as the rest of the world not so much I still have to answer to the boss and the customers but the love of My life is My girl and she is all Mine
Day 1 - Thirty Days of Dominace
Day 1) Does your dominance - either what you practice or what you strive for - have a label? Do you view your dominance as Taken in Hand, domestic discipline, top/bottom, dominant/submissive, master/slave, owner/pet, or some other description or combination? If you do not use a label, why?
Not a common label that I know of We are just going with what feels good to both of us She wants to be Mine and that feels good I like having control of My life and My wife likes to have Me in charge so it works out plus the BDSM-D/m aspect of it is very satisfying sexually
I Have A Belt Buckle So I Am A Dom
I’m relatively new too the D/s - BDSM world.
When my wife and I were first beginning to explore the concepts, the Dom(me)s I had contact with did not impress me in the least. I was almost, but not quite, as unimpressed with the subs. Dom(me)s all seemed like bullies. The subs either thrived on being a victim, or, were actually topping from bottom. I didn’t understand the dynamics. I couldn’t comprehend what was the draw? Outside of having your way,being able to get your weenie wet any time you wanted, outside of sex, what is a Dom(me)?
I saw a cartoon called Dom and Dommer. That explains all the Dom(me)s I had met.
He said, “I have a belt buckle and a hat. Obey Me.”
And then I realized, these Dom(me)s are following a set of rules. That is what turned me off. This is supposed to be fun. I’m the Dom, I’m the top, I get to make the rules, right? To hell with what the rest of the D/s - BDSM world thinks.
For instance, my wife is not a slut or a whore, or any other number of derogatory terms that these people seem to like to use. She likes the submissive idea, to a certain point.
Yes, she will make me a sammich (I spelled it that way on purpose) on demand.She likes to be tied up, she likes to be spanked. She loves to be held down. That is the sex part, when I get a little rough. I’m taking it slow to determine my own limits, and stay within the boundaries of her hard limits. That pretty much leaves it wide open.
But, where do we go after sex? What happens outside the bedroom? Do I control her life? Do I control what she wears? Who she talks too? What she eats? No. Not really.
Yes I choose what she wears a lot of the time. She likes that. I really like that, because, well, my wife is beautiful and I like to see her looking it. I don’t really choose what she eats. But she doesn’t get lobster or caviar every night because I just can’t afford it. As far as who she interacts with outside the bedroom, I don’t have and refuse to have any control over that. She is an adult, she can choose her friends.
I’m not posting triple x rated BDSM photos of her on the internet. If she wants them there, she can post them. I’m not sharing her with any other men, and I’m not touching any other women.
We are in the experimental stages now so if we try something and one or the other does not like it, we won’t do that again.
So far we have been having a whole lot of luck and have not gone anywhere that one of us does not want to go.
We discuss everything we do in depth to be certain that we are both happy with it. Her happiness is the most important thing to me. Because, as I stated before, above anything else, she is my wife, not a possession.
I can’t speak for any other Dom(me)s or subs, but, WE are happy, and I think the best thing I ever did was not open the rule book for BDSM.
My advice to anyone that is trying this, would be, take it at your own pace, and don’t feel you have to live up to anyone else’s standards, ‘cause this is a bunch of fun! It leaves an entire world of exploration out there.
Now I think I’ll have a sammich.
tonight My Wife sort of took control She said here is what I want to do but when you want the control back call Me by My sub name and its yours. Well it was a great night. sometimes You need a little variety.
Spanking My wife is a lot more fun than spanking My Monkey